For the most part, women who’ve never been to one tend to be more interested and intrigued to hear details about the sessions while the guys could not care less and want nothing to do with it.
This disconnect is profoundly sad because it’s the responsibility of both participants to make a monogamous relationship flourish or flounder.
My wife and I view these moments as opportunities for marriage maintenance, in much the same way you do minor repairs and upkeep around the house – with an ever vigilant eye toward anomalies that might hint at a larger underlying problem or issue.
What’s interesting is that I personally know several guys who balk at the idea of attending this type of “needless, touchy-feely” meeting thinking that their marriage is fine and doesn’t require any maintenance at all.
Yet these are the same guys who religiously self-change the oil in their car; rotate their tires and inflate them with nitrogen for peak performance; while regularly washing, waxing and buffing their “ultimate driving machine” with an organic cotton diaper.
While it’s great having a well maintained, high performance vehicle that’s safe and admired by others – isn’t it at LEAST that important to have a peak performing marriage that turns heads as well? If men gave their marriage half the time and attention they gave their vehicle they likely wouldn’t have to worry about who gets the car during divorce proceedings.
But women are part of the equation for a successful marriage as well, yet by the time the guy catches a clue that something’s wrong with the relationship she has totally disengaged and all of his pleading to fix it often goes unheeded.
